Relational Compatibility Is Key
Dear Champions,
The short excerpt is from Andy Stanley, and the scripture is Song of Songs 2:7 - . . . Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
The average divorce rate is about 50 percent. The divorce rate among couples who live together before they get married is 50 to 80 percent higher than the national average. The odds of you moving in together and then being happily married are small. For couples that live together before they get married, the odds of someone in that relationship being unfaithful are twice to eight times as high as the national average.
The longer that you can postpone the physical, the more that you can work on the relational part of the relationship. When the physical goes up, the relational part goes down.
Sexual compatibility is not the litmus test for relational compatibility. It's the other way around. You are sexually compatible with millions of people. You are not relationally compatible with as many people as you are sexually compatible. Sexual activity covers a multiple of relational deficiencies. If you want a relationship that results in great sex, then you need to become a person that knows how to build a great relationship. Great sex is connected to intimacy, and the most satisfying sexual relationships are within the context of relationships. The people that are most satisfied with sex are married.
If sex was just physical and not reproductional, then just go and have a good time. Because sex is not just physical and is reproductional, then you have got to handle it with care. It is fragile. One hundred percent of the portrayals of sex is that it is just physical, and it is not. You hurt yourself when you treat it as if it was only physical.
Champions, have a great week!-David Vining
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