Exclusivity

Exclusivity

Dear Champions,

The short excerpt is by Andy Stanley, and the Scripture is 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

A myth about sex is that practice makes perfect.  Some of you have thought, "I need to know something about this and get pretty good at it so that I don't look stupid.  It's not like learning to play the violin.  If you want to learn how to play the violin you have to practice.  Did you know that you will be able to figure out sex without a single lesson or without a single practice session?"  

Romance in marriage is fueled by a sense of exclusivity, not a skill that you have developed.  Exclusivity is, "I have waited for you; and you have waited for me, and we will figure this out together."  It says that I only have eyes for you.  I have been praying for you and waiting for you before I had a face or a name to associate with you.  I am able to give all of me to all of you.  That fuels romance in marriage and not a skill set, practice or experience. 

Practice makes perfect is just a lie, and it gives you and your partner something to compare each other to, and on the other side of I do that is not an advantage. Romance is fueled when your husband goes on a business trip, and you don't worry.  You know his history before he married you, and you are assuming that it's a continuation after he married you.  It's when your wife is out with her girlfriends; and she does not call, and you don't worry.  You know her history before she married you, and you are assuming that it's a continuation after she married you.  It's that exclusivity that builds and fuels romance in a marriage.

If that's true, then what would you expect God to say to you about sex?  Have as much as you can and then when you get married flip a magic switch and suddenly be committed to one person.  Is that even possible?  Is it no wonder that so many people are so unfulfilled sexually in their marriage when they have messed with the intimacy factor of their sexuality before they said I do.

Champions, have a great week!-David Vining